Children's mischievous false sapa

Naughty child ...., ... Who's Wrong?

Every parent would expect to have a healthy child, smart, and noble. But not all hope it can be realized. Because in fact not a few parents who made dizziness and anxiety induced a naughty child. For example, brat, cool, like to hurt his friend, frequent fighting, frequent stealing and so on. Well, if it so who is wrong? The problem is usually the children themselves are often made in a scapegoat.

According to psychologists Hawaim Machrus, MS. That the involvement of children in crime (delinquency) was influenced by:

First: Families that lack of attention in children.
Second. Social environments that are less healthy.
Third: Law enforcement is still weak.

Medium according to Dr.Nashih Ulwan that behavioral aberrations in children and adolescents often latarbelakangi a "broken home", parental neglect, poverty, orphanhood disaster, not kemunikatif relationships within the family and the many unemployed. From the second opinion is to be understood that the external factors that sociological and economic factors are more dominant economy, despite strong encouragement sometimes bad behavior that arise from internal factors children.

Therefore, it is not a wise stance if the error was in timpahkan delinquency as a whole on the children themselves. Because reality is not all causes of child delinquency of a child's internal, but the environment in which children grow and develop more color the child's behavior.

Family environment is the first and foremost for children. Mother, father and family members who have contributed greatly to the child's socialization and personality formation. Guidance, attention, and the outpouring of maternal affection is a natural requirement that can not be replaced by his assistant. The tendency of small children since not enough guidance, attention, and affection the mother and father will grow into a likely hostile lingkunganya. Because he did not feel accepted in their environment. As a result bond with both parents will become more loose.

For just an illustration, we can imagine living in this modern age full of rivalry, competitive, and all explosive. Many parents (mothers) who tend to be busy with the affairs of the profession, career, and business. So most of the time, effort and thought they devote to the profession and career. So that not a few who forget their most basic tasks (basic), namely as a housewife, wife, and educators of their children.

How in domestic life can be harmonious if a father is often delayed or even rarely come home because she was busy with his business, his mother was too busy with professions, careers and other events. While the child at home sometimes just are accompanied by aides. Although the financial needs of children are met, but it simply is not actually in want children, but the guidance, attention, and the outpouring of affection from both parents are in miss her.

Well, if that is so, then the longer the gap will occur between family members, and compensation of each of them will try to find satisfaction, entertainment, and fun style of his own. Then the impact of household may not be harmonious, even further rift tanggalah homes that might not happen. And perhaps these factors are often the cause of the child or juvenile delinquency.

In addition, whether or not kosher food and beverage consumption in children will have an effect on his personality. Even before the child is born, many education experts who claimed the experience of a mother both physically and psychologically during pregnancy will affect the child would be born later. Therefore, both parents, the more so the mother should always think and act positive.

Basically educating children is the duty of both parents, as affirmed in the Qur'an: "O ye who believe, guard yourselves and your families from hellfire which fuel is men and stones." (At-Tahriim: 6). The command to keep yourself and your family mean to try to equip themselves and their families with the knowledge that can be saved from the fire of hell, which is the science of religion. Then the consequences of both parents must learn the science of religion and taught his son. Because of the good and bad personality greatly influenced by his parents.

In connection with this Rasulullah SAW said: "It is not a child who was born it except to bring nature, then both parents that would make him Jewish, Christian, or Zoroastrian." (HR.Muslim).

And the verse and the hadith above can be understood, that the role of parents is huge in personality formation of children. Therefore, if they can not afford or do not have time to teach him, then they should try to find a trusted teacher or school and guide their children so that children would become a healthy, intelligent, and noble.

In educating children, both parents and teachers should be careful. If the convict should be proportionate, punishment is not harmful, not rude, not ridiculed, or insulted, but otherwise attentive and loving and trying to create a pleasant, safe, and comfortable.

In addition, parents should try to understand the phases of child development. For in every phase of child development that has a different tendency.