Rescue children orphaned by broken home

SAVING CHILDREN HOME Broken

Divorce is a painful thing. Everyone already understand. Even so, the divorce rate was still great. In the past 10 years alone, the data from the Ministry of Religious Affairs said that the divorce rate has increased up to tenfold, from 20,000 cases per year, enlarged ten-fold to 200,000 cases per year.

There is also the root causes of divorce, child which is most affected. After divorce, children are often the subject of acute and latent dispute between former husband / wife are fighting over custody, without realizing that such action is actually mentally fragile child.

I met a client who pity on nisab nephew. He did not enter the chaotic-chaotic problems of ladder rumag sister, but she did not want to sabagai aunt nephew who was still sitting dibangku ikelas 2 SD egoism have become victims of both parents.

Because it is still taken for age, current custody of the child's hands were sisters of my clients. Problems arise because the older sister was always prevented by his father met his son at a variety of ways and reasons. Often my client's ex-brother in law phoned home to speak with her son, but again was rejected.

Whereas previously, a nephew of the client is more deket with her father than her mother. And now he really missed the atmosphere again. Negative impacts, the nephew looks often moody, lazy play outside and learn, and would rather spend his time watching TV and nain games. Even the exam grades dropped dramatically.

"As an aunt do what I can say?" That's the question that the catapult clients to me.

All children need more attention. If ignored, the child will seek an outlet by itself outside itself, such as playing games or watching TV in a very difficult time in the limit. If such a way that has not been able to win it, then it means that the impingement and runaway children are doing in limiting and difficult to understand in adults.

So in my opinion, my aunt could play more, to prevent children from feeling lonely. He can propose to her brother untu provide some activities, such as swimming lessons or drawing. If men could Include exercise in self-defense. Yet for all that, the ante must sit with him. These activities need to be done to divert the child from playing too many games.

Not enough with that, the aunt also had to do some thing untu mother. I say to my clients that, "First, you must understand your sister's point of view about divorce in alaminnya, and the reason he forbade his son contact / touch with his father. If there are matters of principle and fundamental, it must be respected. "

But if only for the ego satisfaction of the ex-husband's wife (prohibiting child contact as a form of retaliation against a former husband), then I say to my clients, in order to try to knock the heart to tell her sister that miss the nephew of her father.

Another way is by showing a few articles about the benefits of allowing children in contact with her father even though his parents divorced. Well, after understanding the reasons for his sister, the aunt could convey to his nephew about the reason his mother forbids him to meet his father. Of course, should the language that the children understand more nuanced and positive.

Another way is by taking the nephew to more frequent visits to families where there is a substitute father figure, such as grandparents or uncle, and stay there untu 1 or 2 nights in the family. The point is to shift the sense of missed it on the male figure surrogate father who still have family.

Value problem worse, not necessarily because of missed. Many factors still to be searched more thoroughly. But in this case, the aunt should play more roles so your child does not become victims of a broken home.