Counseling Ethics Orphans

ETHICS AND ATTITUDES OF COUNSELING Counselors

LEARNING OBJECTIVES:

Understanding the ethical principles of counseling
Have a concern and empathy for his clients
Has the full commitment and responsibility to clients
Receive and treat the client as it is
Respecting the dignity and worth clients
Maintain confidentiality of client
Meet the client's right to make decisions and define himself.
Prevent acts of moral hazard for duty as a counselor
Ethical principles in counseling

BELIEVE

If counselors are to succeed in helping others, then he needs the confidence of clients. Without trust, the client is difficult to express his problems are very personal. Gaining the trust clients require a long time, along with the intensity of interaction and communication with his client counselor.

Agenda counselor at the beginning of counseling is to foster good relations / rapport to clients, so that the growing mutual trust between counselor and client. It's not easy when two people who just know each other are required to open a conversation at length, especially regarding personal matters. For counselors who should not be too familiar with the client, start the counseling process by building good relationships with clients so that the growing sense of mutual trust.

RESPECT

Treating people sebabagi decent human being appreciated. Respect others as human beings are capable of finding solutions to their own problems and looking positive clients, regardless of what he was doing, he has been doing the best according to his ability. Respect include the belief that the people who helped have the ability to bear the burden of life, grow and potentially spread a positive influence on life.

respect to the expectations, rights and dignity of the client

Perform counseling at special places

Be a good listener, and sympathetic

Be patient, do not press to get the information if the client is not ready

just ask relevant questions

EMPATHY

Empathy is to fully understand and feel what others feel. Walking with shoes of others. If the relationship is warm, loving and empathetic, the client will feel valued and safe to share a very personal issue. Such relationships allow counselors are better able to understand the client's perspective, and accurately identify his feelings.

RECEIVE

Accepting clients as they are, so that counselors can have close contact with clients. Clients will feel valued, feel comfortable, positive view of his personality and develop more advanced. Conversely, if the client has been criticized, it is an attitude that appears unwilling to change, perhaps even more viscous with the opinion and their own behavior.

Do not judge! although it was difficult to not judge or blame others. A person will not build a relationship if through assessment. Counsellors need to learn to appreciate and respect others without blame.

accept the existence of his clients as he is there.

Do not see the client solely on the mistakes, shortcomings and failures only. But put the negative things that were in the right context, that is his life as a whole as a unique person, which solved the problem deserves, his words deserve to be considered.

But this does not mean that the counselor justify or neutralize what is wrong on the client. But the positive attitude of planned deliberately developed and practiced by because counselors are aware that through this way they can know the true heart of the matter.

Acceptance is the key to reducing anxiety and fear to become vulnerable (injured). The fear of injury makes it difficult client became open. Through the acceptance of true clients are encouraged to find her confidence back so that he could recognize what was happening, assess the attitudes and way of thinking over the years, and has a new insight

Fully acceptance can not be fully achieved by the counselor, but this something that continues to be pursued.

CREATING SECURITY

Almost everyone feels safe if he is aware there are others who are concerned with the problems faced, understood what he felt, let alone willing to help at any time.

To help other people, counselors need to create relationships and environments that ensure clients can speak freely. The counselor can prepare counseling room that fosters a sense of security for clients, for example, far from the sounds that disrupt the concentration of the conversation. If the counseling conducted in an institution then it is better to use a closed room, so the conversation is not audible to others. If you have to bring people in addition to counseling clients, then all this is done with the approval of the client.

Sense of security can also grow if the client believes the counselor that her case will not be known by the public or another person selalin counselor. Trust the client to the counselor to maintain the confidentiality becomes an important factor to foster the sense of security.

SINCERELY

Counselors receive his clients sincerely and looked at her with a positive attitude. Accepting other people genuinely means not trying to judge.

Sincere may also have a no strings attached. Professional relationships between counselor and client is not a relationship without any compensation. Professional counselor actually got a very adequate compensation. However, more disinterested in this context is understood as an effort to not make the client as a mere object, which is utilized for the benefit counselor. It is precisely the interests of clients who became the center of attention and service counselors. Perhaps the counselor did not oriented solely on money, but the desire and ambition to control and master the client to another form of exploitation of nature

HONEST

The keywords must be held by the counselor is to 'be himself'. Counselors must perform honestly in front of his client, no need to show the made-up attitude. How does this attitude could be identified.

Ju jur to himself, knowing the values held and follow the values it honestly. Be yourself, to be a counselor you do not need to remove and replace your overall personality. Clients do not want to be deceived, and easy to recognize the attitude of pretending. The client will not trust you if you pretend to be someone different from yourself sesunggguhnya. Clients assume you are not honest.

CONFIDENTIALITY

Confidentiality related to matters discussed in counseling. Client confidentiality should be protected, need not be known or presented to other parties, can not be delivered openly by the counselor to anyone, including his colleagues.

If in helping clients, counselors need to consult with parents or referrals to other parties, it should ask permission to the client first.

If the confidentiality of the information no longer be guaranteed due to a lawsuit or because of other considerations that may harm the client, the client must be notified as soon as possible.

Note the interview should only be taken or seen when there is client approval. The results of a record should be destroyed when the counseling has been completed.

In practice, sometimes there are limits to confidentiality are worth noting. If the counselor is ethically inappropriate to know a secret, then the counselor needs to accurately convey to the person concerned (eg client threatening others). The counselor also should be responsible for the safety of others and yourself.

If the client exposed cases associated with legal problems and have to deal with the investigator, the counselor must also provide the correct information for the purposes of investigation. However such information should also be communicated in ways appropriate.

VALUING DIFFERENCE

In helping and serving clients, counselors must understand and appreciate the differences associated with race, culture, gender, sexuality, spirituality, age and various limitations / weaknesses of individuals.

Counselors should consider how these differences affect him when he talked with people of different background. Understand yourself, whether you have a prejudice, and what will happen if you are prejudiced

Do not do counseling on the basis of excessive self-prejudice. View others through their own prejudices or biases such ego obviously a pebble that inhibit counselor personality. Ego bias can not be eliminated completely but can be understood and be wary of. Discussions about his own personality with others will be very helpful in doing counseling to others effectively. This will help the counselor in understanding himself.

The difficulties faced by counselors

Limited knowledge and skills

Often counselors feel less confident, more so for novice counselors. Lack of knowledge and skills of counseling to be the main cause of these self-distrust. In many cases, volunteer social or other humanitarian workers who have no formal background penidikan as a counselor, but in which they provide services are required to participate and perform the function as a counselor.

Counselor to the client's feelings

Because the counselor is not an angel, but a human being then sometimes it can be affected by the client. Counselors sometimes do not like the clients, angry clients when faced with rude and badly behaved!

In addition to feelings of anger, the counselor may have feelings of love to his client. In the intensity of relationships and communication that lasts a long time, the counselor can get emotionally involved. Counselors who work alone or who visit clients in their own homes are the ones who are more vulnerable.

As a counselor you need to handle it! one way is to talk with your peers or your supervisor. If you still tidk able to handle it, then refer your clients kpada another counselor.

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Challenged by the client

Counselors at some point be faced with challenging situations where the client reliability, experience or status of the counselor. The client in this case wants to show and received assurances that he is being treated in a proper manner by a competent person.

In the face of the attitude of the client, the counselor should:

Do not be defensive
Do not underestimate yourself
Be prepared to face the questions
Understanding the context
Be assertive and authoritative

Meghindari saturation

Saturation often emerged among the counselors. Since this is an important issue for counselors, signs or symptoms should we recognize, that as counselors we can anticipate and deal with feelings such saturated.

Symptoms of burnout

Decision-making, related problems big or small to be difficult.

Excessive fantasy or fantasy "to leave the job immediately".

The increased use of medications for headache or other minor aches.
Lope mind when speaking or writing.
Excessive worries about everything.
The explosion of anger and hostility suddenly.
Forget the promises, the deadline for assignments and schedules.
Many expressed the sad things and feel inadequate.
Showed unusual behavior.

Other signs are more easily recognizable:

Indifferent
Feel burdened
Impatient and angry
Continue to provide advice
Emotionally affected
Not creative

Factors that lead to saturation:

Weighing caseload
Knowledge and skills are not adequate
Ineffective case management
Lack of support from leadership
Staff development and staff welfare policy inadequate

Managing burnout:

Do not continue the same thing if you are making no progress. Be open to make the experiment with different approaches. If you do things the same, you will get frustrated. Try other possibilities.

Consult with other counselors. Maybe you need some advice and their opinions.

Carefully, monitor your own feelings towards your clients. If you feel impatient, angry, depressed, do something. For example talking with colleagues, doing something useful, do not let your feelings rampant. If you need to try to counseling with another professional.

Acknowledge your failures, if necessary, seek a referral to the case. You do not need to look down on yourself, keep learning from experience to be able to work more effectively.

Consider for a moment leave your job or leave it altogether and find another job that does not need to sue your emotional life. This does not mean you lose, but it is a wise decision. You should consider both the interests of clients and your own interests. Continue your work in the sense of saturation will worsen the situation yourself and those you serve.

STEP PREVENTION:

Periodically check yourself your feelings, read books on stress management to do the self-management more precisely.

Clarify your expectations. Understand your job properly. Was being realistic about your skills. You need not expect yourself to do things beyond the skills and supplies you have. Do not think of yourself as the savior who must help every person you meet.

Arrange the cases you handle. Do not vice versa, you are dictated by the cases. Set and selection was exactly what kind of problems you deal with in accordance with the range of your skills.

Make a team approach, work together with colleagues, consult with each other.

Perform time management more effectively, because it works with the client will probably take you to engage in various activities of the client. Make time for yourself and family. Make plans for rest, recreation, vacation or other personal activities.

Separate work from personal life. Not wise if you are willing to accept the call or the arrival of the clients at home, except in crisis situations. Do not get too immersed himself in work, while ignoring your personal affairs.

Strengthen your relationships with friends, fellow professionals and families. There needs support from a number of friends, friends and colleagues. Participate in activities organized by professional associations. Form a support group to share experiences and learn together. Do not forget you also need her relationships with people who are not related to your job.

Develop yourself. Make a personal development plan. Read articles from various news sources or books that can support an increase in your skills. Conduct consultation and supervision with experts who have more experience on a regular basis. Hadirlah in seminars or workshops to expand your knowledge. Follow the training of a number of institutions in a sustainable manner.