Complaining orphans

Living in a big city kind of Jakarta or Surabaya Bandung require the power of faith and mental strength. Stuck on the way in certain times is a problem that sometimes we are facing. No wonder that for a trip, if we do not use a good strategy, not on sound planning, then congestion would actually steal so long. Sometimes for hours on the road. If it does not attempt to clear the liver, which seems to occur only along the indignation and rage. "Oh, when the arrival! Ouch, this really really long time! Oh, really stuck on! "Maybe the phrase like that. Ouch and ouch.

Though the words oh, if only sign complaints, actually does not solve the problem. It is precisely the words that came out that show our impatience. Moreover, all of a sudden in the street there is another vehicle stopped at will. We may be disappointed and see this as something that needs fixing. But, does not mean we have to suffer with a temper tantrum or complain. Eyed and mouth sometimes say "Get off, dong!" Probably wanted to scold like that. However, it would be much better if we are greeted with gentle words, "Excuse me, sir! Perhaps a bit to the side a bit! "Phrase as it appears to be more light into the hearts, of the bulging with muscle.

Perhaps when it's a lot of anger, but will be much lamented, will also make yourself more emotional. This is the most detrimental. For us and for others. We must measure the loss of time in a few minutes or several hours, when the actual time may be an additional knowledge and skills ourselves. It's good, while traveling equip yourself with knowledge sources, either cassette lecture, nasheed, or cassette murotal Qur'an. These sources will increase the acceleration of our science, as well as will make us not be tempted to air-ria ouch. "Oops, too late ya! Oh, damn you! Alas, there is a miss ya! "Words like these really do not need to be removed! Because it does not solve the problem. Better we are content with the prayer: "O God, may I come in time, hopefully there is a way out of this jam." These words will be more productive than the word "ouch".

Let us meminimalisirkan complaints like this. Especially for our own pleasure was there when we talk more politely. Civility will make our inner lighter than the emotional behavior. Moreover, the softness will be able to conquer something that can not be done by force. That was part of the equation. Because, if people loudly resisted by force, then it will feel a part of his world. But, if people were given a hard-tempered genuine tenderness of heart most deeply, Isha Allah they will be blown away too soft. For example, the hard Umar bin Khattab or Khalid bin Walid to fall tersengkur crying by the soft strains of the Qur'an.

Often make our sigh terdramatisasi the problem. As if the plans and desires better than what happened. In fact, not necessarily. Who knows, behind the events that we think is disappointing, it was filled with God's protection and granted loaded with our expectations. Each made a mistake, God helped us by giving His guidance. Guidance does not have to ask for granted that we desire. It may be that the prayer was granted contrary to what we ask. Because God is omniscient behind everything we desire. Both short-term desires, as well as long-term desires. Both the loss of worldly and hereafter losses. Both losses are losses materially and mentally. We can not accurately detect. Sometimes we just need to detect it in accordance with our desires.

This seems trivial groan. But, it will be a qualifying restraint. Know that the quality of a person is not measured by something big, but the small ones. If we want to see quality housing complex, then we'll see a short length of grass in the yard. If quality and well maintained, the grass will also appear well maintained. Let us respond all the events with a positive verbal response. Why? Because each response will affect our perception of the problems we face and how we solve them. More than that likely to impact the people around us. So, greeting-greeting, warning, reprimand, comments, remarks, these remarks to be really productive value. Means not only for ourselves, but also for those around us.

Moreover, complaints including heart disease, namely in the form of our impatience to receive the provision of God. There qudsi hadith which states that "Those who have been my pleasure to terms, and not wait for disaster from Me, then seek God besides Me." (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim)

From this hadith qudsi, It appeared that on all that God gave us, then we must accept it with pleasure. Therefore, we do not need a lot of moaning or complaining. As much as possible reduce these oh-woe. Far be more productive if we optimize the time with a lot of prayer and increase the quality of science itself and continues to refine its efforts in the way of Allah who blessed